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GRATITUDE
A lot of people are going through deep emotional stress and anxiety, low self-esteem, imposter syndrome, and self-sabotaging which has negatively affected their emotional well-being and productivity.
Due to Covid-19, many people lost their jobs, and they haven’t been able to secure another. This could make them think of themselves as a failure, unfulfilled, broken, not enough, and not living a life of purpose.
We all suffer similar challenges in life although in different stages and phases. We’ve been through disappointment, we’ve felt unseen, unappreciated, unrecognized, undervalued, unwanted and not enough.
One thing I’ve discovered to be the source of this sadness is comparison. I know many people can relate to what I’m talking about. You are always quick to compare yourself with others. You compare your progress with that of others. You compare your financial status with that of others and the comparison never stops.
There are statements that constantly play around in our heads that indicate how we are comparing ourselves to others, these are:
- I’m not good enough. I’m not as handsome/beautiful as he/she is.
- It is not available to me. I guess God doesn’t love me enough to bless me with a slim body, nice legs, buff body, tall height, money etc. or to give me my desires or answer my prayers.
- I am different from others so I can’t connect; and lots more.
The above words do nothing but devalue and destroy your joy and self-esteem and your emotional well-being. You are not in competition with anybody, rather find your place – your purpose and be the best version of yourself. You are more than you can imagine or see.
With the rapid growth of technology (social media) in the world, it’s easier to compare yourself with others based on achievements and growth.
For the stepmoms out there, I used to consistently compare myself with everyone. I always compared and competed with my husband’s late wife and stepchildren’s mother whom I’d never met. I know she means a lot to them, and I just wanted to be exactly the way she was and fit into their lives, and by so doing, I was suffering by choice.
If you’ve been in these shoes, then you’ll fully understand what I’m talking about. But one thing I learned during this journey is to be grateful for who I am and what I have.
SUFFERING IS A CHOICE. Pain can be lessened or erased but suffering is a choice we’ve made from our decisions and lifestyle.
Comparison is the thief of all joy.
Choose to be grateful. There are many things to be grateful for. Be grateful for who you are, what you have, what you don’t have, where you are, the blessing of life, your family, your loved ones, your future, etc.
When you are grateful even for the little things, you’ll have access to even bigger things. A grateful heart opens you up to more possibilities and more wins and victories and to personal growth.
Be grateful and happy. When you are grateful and happy you tend to be healthy, wealthy, and sure that all you desire comes to you.
Stop comparing today and be grateful!
